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I have a really good friend that I've known for around 17years... on and off again friend because of moving and loosing touch. for about 3 years or so, she doesn't return my calls all the time and doesn't bother with me anymore. But when I do get to talk to her it's like we miss eachother very much. I've had a similiar situation with another close friend and it didn't turn out very well... we don't talk anymore because I decided to dump her as a friend. I don't want this to happen again and think that I should just continue to try and just let it go.:(
I have a few times. We have moved across country and some of my friends literally forgot about me! At least that's the way that I felt. I think if they are a good enough friend to you that you should just say something. I brought it up to my friends in a respectful way. I just let them know that I was having a hard time and that I was so very thankful to have them in my life. I just had to reiterate to them the meaning of our friendship in my life, that I needed them. It actually went over way better than I thought. A lot of times the other friend might be feeling the same way. I know that sometimes I have been that friend that forgets to call back or never responds to a text. It doesn't mean I don't love them a ton, just means I have been so overwhelmed that I literally forget. And I'm glad that I have friends that call me out on it too! ;)
Hope this helps!
I have sent her a friendship card a year ago with my own words about how much her friendship means to me and she did call me and say that she liked the card. I'm just starting to think that I shouldn' t put too much thought into this friendship and just let it go as is without saying anymore to her. Although, if one day I'm on the phone with her, I might mention it a little bit to see how she responds. The last friend I mentioned before where she was doing the same thing, the last time I told her how I felt she said that she doesn't have as much free time as I do since she works and I don't since I"m a stay at home mom!
That's hard! Maybe just feel her out and see what a little space does. Try not to get really down. I know sometimes I am more emotional and read to far into things than needs to be. If she is a true friend I know it will work out!
I have a few friends who still live near me and I have the same type of situation. I try to be understanding but just today have decided that I will no longer chase them. The rejection I feel when they fail to respond continualy is making me feel as though the effort is no longer worth the rewards. I miss our friendship but if we are both truley friends then they will notice. I stopped contacting one for about a month and she finally messaged me about it. I had told her a few times that this was a problem and she discussed it openly however nothing changed until she realized how it felt to not hear from me at all.
I hope you can work it out with your friends :) Good luck
By the way, it's nice to to talk with both of you, it helps put things into prespective and it helps me to decide what to do. I like to hear other moms/women's opinions.. and I now know that I'm not alone in how I feel. :)
Maria L, You absolutely are not alone in this situation or your feeling the way you do. I have had this circumstance more than once. My best offering, when you know you have gone out of your way and offered olive branch after olive branch, and they (your friends), are not giving in return, let go. By that, I don't mean "defriending" them or being a brat about it, just quit worrying about it. When you know in your heart you tried maintaining contact and nurturing the friendship, it is your friend's turn to send that olive branch your way, or make an effort to connect. All relationships are two way streets. Time will either heal or they will come around to your doorstep again, hopefully, holding an olive branch for you.
Friendship can be a tough thing.
Expectations rise high and you get frustrated without any reason.