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My husband is famous for starting new ventures for which I am not supposed to have to do any of the work and then I end up having to do a ton. He's now started a food stand and he loves this thing and I hate it. I really love my husband, but I am working my butt off on this thing while he works full time and fits this in on the weekends (so he works 7 days a week) and I wasn't supposed to have to do any work, but have put in a full week's worth of work this week. I'm so stressed and I hate the restaurant business. We've sunk tons on money into this and hardly made any money this weekend. How do I stay positive?
Just think of his new venture as something that can bring you both closer. I understand that it may not be your ideal job, or anything, but if it is making him happy, maybe you can explore ways in which it can make you happy, too. Maybe you can take it on yourself, in some aspects and allow that to help you grow in other areas, like food service, prep, cooking, etc. Stay positive and don't get frustrated. I understand where you are coming from completely. My husband is always doing more and more work for HIM...and I do my best to support him in any way I can. When the time comes for him to support me, which he does, I know he will be there 110%!
I'm sure trying. He was being very supportive of me being a writer. Now this thing is going to take up a lot of time and I have less time to be a properly attentive writer. He says my involvement is temporary. We'll see. I am very good at being the "face of the business" so I try to focus there. Thankfully, it is only open on weekends. I am frustrated because I have some sort of undiagnosed illness eating up my time also and I was already at my wits end. I need to manage time more effectively and feel good to do it, which I don't, so handling this stress has been unusually difficult. I'm exhausted all the time and having trouble getting things done at home. I'm just exceptionally tired and frustrated. Thanks for the reply.
Hi Cindy, I can sure empathize with you. I have been there before ~ giving until you don't have anything left! But the way I look at things (sometimes forcing myself) is to ask, "what is God up to in all of this?" Maybe you need to get more organized, which is something I have had to really focus on lately with all that we have going on. I put up a post about this not long ago which may help ~ Be Effective - Get Organized. Hang in there.... and stay positive. This "restaurant" may be exactly what you need in order to give you the time you want to write in the months to come! There is always a silver lining if you look for one. Good luck and keep us updated ~ we're all here to encourage you through the hard times and celebrate the good times!
God and I have those conversations a lot. It mostly starts with me whining, "Oh my God, why [whatever, whatever, whatever]," LOL! And you know, I have heard of the fly lady thing before and need to investigate it again. The organization thing is part of the problem. I had a daughter who was supposed to be doing certain things to help out and didn't hold up to her end of the bargain and then I got sick, then the kids got sick and we're just overwhelmed as a whole and now this "opportunity" means we all work 7 days a week 8-12 hours a day. We're all just exhausted and I'm trying like heck to be the glue holding us all together. Last night, I cried the glue off my smiling face in a total exhausted breakdown and that helped a little ;0) Oh, good thing I am a humor writer. I'll find the humor in all of this eventually. Thanks for the support. I really need it.
My husband is wanting to do the same thing. He has been looking at concession trailors for months. I am all about standing behind him in what makes him happy, but I am a little concerned. I just hate to sound negative because I am not a negative person. He is usually the negative one! :) but I feel like you. It will all end up on me. :)
I am doing my best to change my attitude and just roll with it and be happy and supportive. It's hard sometimes, though, because I am sacrificing a lot of my own time and dreams to make his come true. I'm sure we're not the first wives to do this. I feel ya!
No I think a lot of wives feel the same. I feel like if I support him he will eventually support me in my dreams. We all have them! :)