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"The three things you can offer your children to change them: attention, appreciation and affection." - Deepak Chopra
Deepak’s words hold so much truth for a well-balanced child and if you are a parent like I am, you put your heart and soul into these three actions. Yet as a woman, which I am not, many of you place attention to yourself, appreciation for your gifts and self-love at or near the bottom of your values list if they are there at all.
So many amazing women I have had the privilege of coaching over the years put everyone and everything ahead of themselves. Whether their hope was to lose 100 pounds or move past smoking, a consistent barrier remained where the needs of others did not allow time for their own well-being. Sound familiar? It may be you or someone you know.
I encourage you today to rewrite YOUR story, align your values, embrace yourself and find your healthy balance. This is not about EGO where self is the center of all and God is left out. This is about shifting and realigning your values to allow for your true purpose to reveal itself.
Why then do we hope to change and nurture our children through focused attention, honest appreciation and loving affection if it is not to see them grow into a well-balanced (Mind-Body-Spirit) human being and live out their purpose in life? They learn their priorities by watching us so I encourage all of you moms to value yourself as your creator values you.
I welcome all of your shared ideas on how you have, are or will “make this happen” as you may have sisters follow in your footsteps.
This is absolutely beautiful. :)
Your words are kind and appreciated Kirsten. Please stay in touch.
I hit my (personal) rock bottom last month.. no one around me would have known it...I soon realized that I was not putting myself high on my priority list AT ALL.... I wasn't even listed. You know the instructions on the airplane... where you have to put your oxygen mask on FIRST before you can help others around you?!?! Well... yep... I quickly saw that, while I was striving to make everyone else happy (and setting my own needs aside), I wasn't doing ANY good... not even a little. So what did this mean? Dropping everything... packing... and spending a month on a beach somewhere... alone... journaling... with a bottomless glass of wine?!?!?! (Boy that sounds amazing). Not at all. I can't just drop the ball... and I would never want to, as, where I may be struggling... I still love my life and the ones around me. I just need more ME... they need more ME. So, I'm slowly figuring this out and learning each day how to put my oxygen mask on first. (Takes a deep breath in) I'm ready to let go of this "control" factor that I've had such a tight grip on... and see what God has planned for me... I'm sure it's much MUCH better.
Wow Leslie, what an amazing way that you have shared your feelings. You are walking down a path for sure and letting God lead, as well as not being afraid to step through the doors He opens, will set you free. I would love to hear more from you.
Many blessings my friend and be well,