To forgive oneself is not the same as forgetting an abortion. The child can never be returned. Memories will remain, but the negative feelings towards oneself can be reconciled. Abortion is a far greater dilemma for men than researchers, counsellors and women have ever begun to realize. Many men…

“The divorced person is like a man with a black patch over one eye: He looks rather dashing but the fact is that he has been through a maiming experience: – Jo Coudert

Divorce #2. Growing up I only knew two kids with divorced parents. Isn’t that crazy? Divorce was more whispered about than witnessed. Divorce was a soap opera topic, or a very special “after school special”.  A twice divorced woman? Only on “Dallas.” So now, I suppose I have become one of those shoulder padded…

A university psychology class was viewing a film showing prenatal development. Suddenly, a student, a young man, rushed from the room. The professor followed him and found him leaning against the wall in the corridor. He was sobbing. All he could say was "I didn't know it was a baby! I would never have paid for it if I had known a baby was there!"

The "it" for which he had paid was an abortion. His tears made it apparent…

So, where were we? Ah yes, I remember now – saying “F&*K It” to relationships. Moving straight on from the last point let's get quickly back on track whilst these thoughts are still fresh in my head.

The possibility of saying F&*k It is like the story of a two-dimensional world. Nothing has a three dimensional shape, everything is just lines and shading, like the old PC games we all used to play. These people simple cannot understand a three dimensional world..it is…

Well, what a holiday that was.... I've never had such a good time in my life. Best holiday ever in fact. I won't gloat or bore you with the details but all the pics are public on the relevant FB page for all those in the know. But as good as it was, it was not the best thing that happened (I know you are asking how is that possible after just checking out said pics?)

The absolute best thing that happened was that my mate finally said "F&*k It"! Not just to the terrible situation…

** If a day ever went by where a kid HADN'T peed on a toilet seat here, I'd swear I was in the wrong house.

** I seriously could not be more unorganized.

** Everybody needs a mental health day.  (Still waiting impatiently to cash in on mine....)

** Homework supervision is totally interfering with my tweeting and…

Misadventures in Motherhood: I'm a Naughty Little…

What would happen if you ALWAYS assumed the best?  It would mean giving people the benefit of the doubt no matter what prior circumstances may have taken place that would cause you to question their intentions. When you assume the best, you can actually create the space for the person to step into their best. 

Don Miguel Ruiz, author of "The Four Agreements," writes that when you agree not to make assumptions about others, you are on a path to your own freedom.  Freedom from the…

As interesting as the previous few posts have been, they have been perhaps so general that they risk on boring, or hard reading at least, after all it's not a happy subject.. It's a real shame as I think we have now all at least come to the conclusion that this is a subject far less explored than has or should be. But since I started the blog I’ve received so many emails (thank you all) from other men going through the same thing – but most of all you want to know what happened to my…

 A Psychodynamic-Relational View Michael Simon, a clinical psychotherapist, has written a paper on "Male Partners and the Psychological Sequelæ of Abortion: A Psychodynamic-Relational View." He argues that abortion is a traumatic experience and therefore impacts on both male and female sense of self-integrity.

The severity of the impact on one's psyche, he concludes, can lead to problems that have previously not been recognized in abortion research. Simon acknowledges that any…

I have thought long and hard about continuing this blog, not least because of the trouble it seemed to cause and my friend lost his liberty. But some things are more important than liberty. Like the truth for example, or for other men to know exactly what effect having a termination can have on their lives. After all, it's all about women these days..

Well, it is their body right?

Well of course it is, Let me give you a scenario. A woman comes home from work one…

Let’s face it - the days of wooing a partner have gone to sleep along with having baths on a Sunday and podding peas I’ve picked myself.



Here are 10 of the newest rules for modern relationships:



1: Meeting parents is less of a commitment than accepting him or her as your partner on Facebook.  



2: You can write love letters in less than 140 characters - in line with Twitter’s requirements.



3: Forplay now includes picture messaging.…

The woman always knows…so why don’t men listen?

We were in WV for the Thanksgiving weekend and we were having a nice family day site seeing…

I had one of those stupid/crazy/emotional/explosive mornings today.  It has been awhile, so I guess it was due.  ;)



Nothing in particular really happened.  I was being, as I am probably too much of the time, a little too sensitive and took a few comments (a few that were spaced out over a few of days, actually - damn that memory of mine sometimes!) a little out of context and manipulated them in my head and then decided to be sad about it.  In all fairness, Jake…

Okay, okay.  It has been said before that I am a bit hard; a tough cookie; someone that will choose the impossible choice as opposed to the easy or conventional path. 



But I believe that the hard choice sits in the wings ominously waiting to take the stage no matter how hard I try to avoid it.  And funnily enough, that choice seems to force its way into the light when I have centre stage.  Why would I want to keep having my successes rocked by an uninvited extra?



I…

Yes, that would be The Boy and The Girl about 10 years ago.  They are about 15 months apart but as most people with kids that close will tell you, they are essentially twins.  The funny thing about these two is how closely their relationship resembles that of a married couple.

From the time The Girl entered the world, things were different for The…

Why R Men Such Babies?!!

It’s Kindergarten time and we and when I say “we” I say that loosely as I rather mean “I” as Mom! Mom has had to deal with; lice, cold, flu, fevers, pink eye, growing pains, nightmares, teething, etc.

My husband works during the day…

The courtship with my husband, Colby, wasn’t typical. It wasn’t boy in bar + girl in bar = boy meets girl. As everything else in my life, meeting Colby wasn’t that simple. Our meeting was the stuff movies are made of.

...…