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Who loves date night? Me me meeee! Who has been on a date in the last week? Month? Six months? Year? Just because you are married does not mean you can't go on a date--with your own spouse, of course. I'm telling you right now, if it has been longer than a month since your last date night you need to finish reading this blog post and make something happen gals (and guys)! You've got to reconnect with the person you fell in love with.
I love being a stay at home mom. I am well suited to the work of a mom and--dare I say it--"housewife." I enjoy being by myself (you know, with one or more kids hanging on me); I am more of a homebody. I love being able to see and be part of every milestone. I like that my days are my own (except for when they are not). I make my own schedule for the most part. I have my routines and I am in charge (except when the kids stage a coup--it happens on occasion). There are things that I need to work on and goals that I set for myself (much like if I were out in the workforce getting paid).
If I complain about anything at all--my number one complaint would be that I don't get to see my husband as often as I would like. I feel kind of crappy complaining about it because the reason I don't see him as much as I would like is because he is busting his butt so we can pay our bills and so that I can stay home with the kids! With every choice there is a little give and a little take. There is a perfect balance in every household and if one thing gets off kilter the entire Jenga tower collapses. That's why a couple times a month when I feel like I just can't wiggle another piece free without crumbling, I schedule a date night.
But how, Christine? He works. I work. The kids have us running from sun up to sun down. I don't have a babysitter. What would we do with ourselves?
Get it on the calendar immediately. Write it down. Add it to your Google Calender or your Cozi calender. Write it on a post it note. Jot it in your planner. Put it somewhere you look every day. Text the date to your spouse. Get it down in black and white. Writing it down gives it a weight, allows it to be a priority. Not something to fit in, rather something to schedule around. It also gives you something to look forward to and I'm sure you know that many times the anticipation of a thing is just as much fun as the actual thing!
Find a babysitter or two or three. This is beyond worth it, but may involve moving out of your comfort zone to find them. When you are a new mom and all of your friends are new moms, you all just sit around asking each other--do have any babysitters? And you all just answer back that you don't but you do know a lot of preschoolers...you are all at the same loss and so what do you do?
Date night at home. IF you can have the kids ready and in bed at a reasonable hour..it will take some motivation and planning, but it is possible to have a date at home. However, date night does have to be something out of the ordinary to count. I didn't say extravagant-- what I said was it has to be something beyond you frittering time away on Pinterest while your husband falls asleep to the sound of the hockey game. Here are some ideas that could work for us--and you can tweak them to your liking, of course:
I hope I've made the case for date night for you. Just writing this post has motivated me to take my own advice and get some date nights on the calendar. I know we've got some creative readers--so please share your ideas for an at home date night, advice on finding a babysitter, and tips for making it a priority! I can't wait to see what you have to say! And if you are looking for more ways to strengthen your relationship, or add a little spice, check out Janene's post 5 Things to Do For Your Hubby ASAP!
P.S. Don't forget to link up with us tomorrow when we talk about The BEST day EVER (this week).
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