With Jackson I was a very laid back parent.  Don't get me wrong.  It wasn't that I didn't discipline him.  I was just still somewhat of a child myself.  I didn't follow schedules.  I didn't enforce nap times.  I wasn't strict about what he ate or how much TV he watched.  I looked at other parents and thought wow, they are strict.  Poor kid.  I could never be like that with my kid.  Then I grew up.
And now with Miller I have realized that I'm THAT mom.  I was mentally checking off the list of things I said I would never do when Jackson was little and I think I'm pretty close to hitting every one of them.  For example:
-I will never let my baby's schedule dictate my life.  Hmmm, have I mentioned we have to plan even grocery trips around Miller's naps?  Cross that one off.
-I will never use the cry it out method.  My baby can just sleep with me.  After 2 months of sleepless nights, we cried it out together and he is now sleeping well (OK, it's only 90% of the time but still!) in his own bed.  Mark that one off too.
-I will never be the parent that won't put my baby in the nursery.  Miller is 5 and a half months now and he is old enough to go to the nursery when we go to church but I can't do it.  It T-E-R-R-I-F-I-E-S me!  His little squealing noises don't distract from the sermon too much;-)  List is officially thrown out the window now.
I could go on and on about the things that I was NEVER going to do as a mother.  But now I only have one thing on that list and here it is.  Wait for it...
Yup, lesson learned.  And I'm eating crow.  So I officially apologize to all the mommies out there that I looked at in disbelief when they would leave a party early to take their child home for nap time.  Or those that I gave angry glares to because they had their children with them constantly even when they were old enough to be in the nursery.  So sorry y'all.  I finally understand!  And I will gracefully accept the criticism of others when parenting techniques enter the conversation.  Because in the end, I've done the best I knew how with both my boys and I can be proud of that.
Have I done it right?  Who knows?  But be sure to check back in 20 years.  I'll let you know the outcome of both my parenting styles.  Hopefully I will have two well adjusted young men.  And if not, I'll take full responsibility and make sure I have great insurance that can pay for their "blame it on mommy" therapy!

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Comment by Kaela Cyleste Berry-Generally on May 17, 2011 at 2:29pm
Absolutely LOVED reading this & completely adored it! It's funny, with my five kiddos, I was a sheer maniac with the three older boys (all born within three and a half years), but when the twins came along (seven years later)...it was a TOTALLY different story!  Gone were the days of everything having to be scheduled and "just so", and especially having two babies and special needs to take into consideration too...I just wanted all three of us (the twins and myself) to survive! Well, we made it! And now, I look back and chuckle! And your story just actually made my day! Thanks for making me smile!   : )

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