Since most of my readers are women with children aged 33-45, most of you probably haven’t heard of tinder, the new iphone app.  I just learned about it last week from Tabitha and I thought the whole concept was rather fascinating.  Fascinating that people in their late teens, early 20′s  spend most of their time connecting with people via social media and fascinating that as Mothers we have another app/social media platform we need to concern ourselves with.  As if Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, Stumbleupon, RebelMouse, Twitter, and whatever else I’m missing isn’t’ enough to monitor, now we have tinder.

tiffani goff at home

When My Space first came out I was horrified at the concept and terrified to let Tabitha have an account.  I eventually let her join in the fun under the condition I always had the password and I religiously checked her account.  Once Facebook arrived on the scene, the same rules applied.  Louie and I would check her account everyday, especially during high school on the weekend mornings to make sure there wasn’t any discrepancies as to where she claimed to be and where she actually was as evidenced by her Facebook postings.  Now that she is 20 I don’t bother to check and most times try to avoid looking at her posts in case there is more skin or beers in a photo than I want to see.

Last weekend she accepted a friend request from some girl and within minutes she was tagged in 4 different pictures of women exposing their breasts.  The pictures weren’t of her and she didn’t know the people, but she started yelling for me to help.  I ran in her room and she quickly explained the situation.  She started working on her phone to delete them while I went to the house computer to do the same thing.  Within minutes we deleted the photos or rather untagged her and she unfriended the girl.  Funny enough one of my very best friends who lives in New York called me within minutes of this incident.  As we were talking, she nonchalantly mentioned that Tabitha had been tagged in some racy photos.  I started laughing and explained what had happened.  She was so relieved.  I guess it was funny because she is 20 but if that happened to my 14 year old, I would be pissed and horrified.  So back to tinder.

Tinder is an iphone app that in my opinion is a combination of Match.com and Facebook.  Because I have been married forever, I have never been on any dating websites but I heard about them from numerous people.  The cool thing about tinder is that all the potential people are within 30 miles of you which also means that you sweet innocent teenage daughter or son could be meeting people online and hook up with them in driving distance.  Scary, but true and a reality we need to be aware of.  If you child is an adult like mine, the concept is cool.

tinder 1

You download the app, make an account and they present you with  pictures of the opposite sex, (have no idea how this works if you are gay) within a 30 mile radius of your location.  If you hit “like” to a picture and they like your picture back , you have a match and can start messaging via the tinder forum.  The whole thing is anonymous until a match is made.  So apparently no one can see if you ignore or fail to like their picture.  Why I liked the concept for Tabitha was because she met this cute guy and he used to work with one of her friends.  So because he was local, she asked around about him and people within her circle of friends had met him before and confirmed he was who he claimed to be.

So I think so this is a safer alternative to normal online dating.  I did read a few reviews on tinder and apparently most of the participants are young, such as high school students.  It looks like they are working on updating the app so they can group people by age, but until then beware because you kid may be on tinder connecting with some old dude.

My final thought on children and social media is this.  Social media isn’t going away, it is only go to encompass more and more of our lives, so learn how to manage it in a healthy and safe way for both you and your children.  Trinity who is almost 11 was just allowed to join Instagram last week.  I helped her set up her account, I have her screen name, her password and she used my email so I can monitor all aspects of the account.  We also agreed she would only invite and follow  people she personally knows.  So now I have an new job each day, monitor her account.  I am not a stalker but it is important to be diligent to help keep our children safe.

Have a great weekend……

xoxo tiffani

Views: 55

Tags: apps, for, iphone, media, social

Comment

You need to be a member of Bloggy Moms to add comments!

Join Bloggy Moms

Comment by Alethea Etinoff on January 29, 2013 at 10:45pm
I will ask my 20 & 18 year olds about Tinder. Thank you for the information.

Blessings~
Alethea


 







 

 

Redbox

It's Not Wine, It's Mommy Juice

Organized Island

Grace for Moms

WAHM - Passion for Health, Fitness & Success!

Tiffani Goff at Home

Running In Pearls

Chaton's World: A Quest for Balance in Stilettos

Broward Saves- Freebies, Coupons, Deals & More!

Mama's High Strung

Latest Girls - Makeup & Beauty Tips

Katherines Corner - Recipes

Our Stories God's Glory

Branding, Blogging, & Building Your Business Online

Ronda Writes - Humorous Opinions!

Mommy Hiker

Books R Us- A Great Place for Reviews

Pattern Making

Terri's Little Haven (Product Reviews)

Kleinworth & Co

Life O'Kay- Where life is always O'KAY!

Tales From the Motherland

Figuring Out How the Pieces Fit

Moms of Purpose

Robot Mommy

POSH on a Budget

Spa Travel Gal

A Little Claire-ification

The Harried Mom

Little Things, Big Difference

Communicating.Across.Boundaries

Rabbit And The Fox

Beauty with Mary

Whole Soul Jewelry

The Jenny Evolution. Keep Evolving

The Honey Pie Dialogues

Not My Year Off

It's a Journey: Marketing for Your Home Business!

Boogies N Boo-Boos

Master the Art of Saving- Earn, Save, Spend

The Bizy Mommy | Managing Home & Biz

Be Inspired. Stay Motivated.

Hip-Baby Mama

Tamar Barbash - Mother, Blogger, Social Worker

Scrink, Bring Me Up

Random Babblings

Our Life & Love Story

i SabrinaEspinal

Grandparenting Tips, Articles and Giveaways

Rude Mom Blog

Mama Untangled

Marriage with a Baby Carriage

Blog Based Moms

Mommyjuiced - Wine Makes Me a Better Mom

Wester New Yorker

Mom Behind a Blog

Once Upon a Giggle

Cherry Blossom Love

Missional Women

Girliemom

Saving with Charlotte

Journey of the Bees "Believe in the Impossible"

Amazing Grace and a Safe Haven

Scattered Venus

Mom to Bed by 8

The Two Bite Club

A Real Mother

Suburban Stereotype

Sticky Floors, Happy Kids

Gone Green Mama

Moms with a Blog

Hapa Mom - A journey to a simple, happy life

Another Cent Saved Saves you $$

The Pet Blog Lady

Organized Island

BirthTouch Coaching

Saving with Sara

Blushing Bee By Me

Domestic Executive Online

Mother & Fitness

The Nerdy Nurse

DANCIN' MOMa!!

Artistic Bent

Mom's Lifesavers

My Life on a Platter

Mrscpkc – Personal Memoir and Lifestyle Blog

Mommy Loves Martinis

Blog At Home Mom

Aspiring Super Woman

Inspired Passions

~Girlfriends Are Like Shoes ~

MamaMouse-Disney World Site for Moms

WDW Dreamin'

The Sticky Mom

Preschool Activities and Parenting by MomTrusted

TOT Runway

Yum! recipes 4 NJ #Sandy relief

FREE Homeschooling Tips and Resources

Gladiator in Heels

LeaderMom

CT Mommy Blog

Toronto Mama

One Income Life

InnArtvation Studio

Minimees x 4

When Tara Met Blog

You surround me with songs of deliverance

Yay Baby!

Melissa's Southern Style Kitchen

2 Girls and a Crazy Dog

The Small Things

The Simplified Family

Simply Anchored - Life Lived Simply

Here is What I Think...

Parenting with Parents

Expat Aussie Mama in Croatia

The Sisterhood of Spiritual Single Moms

Glori Online- Blessed with Pink & Blue

Jacquelynne Steves: The Art of Home

Too MOD Mama

Buckiddo

I eat pop tarts

Redefining Mom- A Working Mom's Blog

Jaime Loves Stuff

The Wellness Journey

Laura Kelly Designs

Spa Travel Gal Ava

Two Lines to Rule Them All

Mommy Needs A Break

Snappy Momma

JenniLeeG

Dancing on the Edge of Sanity

Lil' Face's Mom Has a Blog

Ancestreats - Share Recipes & Foodoirs

Sweet Leigh Mama

A Mom's Point of View

Everyone Needs Mom

Faith and Family Reviews

Sandy Toes Creations

Fashionista Momma

The Wellness Journey

Living in Mommywood

Familial Ramblings

Sincerely, Mindy

Pandora's Craft Box

Gazing In - Life, Family & Food

Bella Vida by Letty

Organized Island

Our Brown-Eyed Girl

A Mix of 6

3 Stages Of Girl

Helicopter Mom and Just Plane Dad

Flour On My Face

A Mommy and Her Two Sweet Boys with Autism

Confessions of a Wrap Mom

Picking Up the Pennies

Lovely Little You

Celebrate Woman Today

The Homesteading Hippy

Fine Art Mom

The Bluebird Patch

Central Coast Couponista

This Mommy Cooks Dinner

Susan K Mann

Baby Doodah!

Comatised

Mama(s) Around the House

A Fletchers Diary

Single Mom Debt Solutions Blog

SAHM I am. Cocktail I want

Weaning My Family From Processed Foods

Chicken Scratch

Little Purple Room

Busy Mom Monologues

Six Pack Mommy

Julie Valerie's Book Blog

The Momista Diaries

Homeschool Inspiration

Virtuosa Diaries Uugh...

Bella Home Goods

Rebecca Rose Blog

Learn Create Launch

In The Know with Jo

Nature Inspired Ideas For Your Home

A beautiful mess

Digi Mama's

Allyson's Wonderland

Wiregrass Parenting

Carries Kiddie Closet

Katherines Corner

Gluten Free Jersey Girl

Honey's Life

Barbara's Blog

My Couponing Life

ButeauFull Chaos

BonBon Rose Girls

Stories from a mother of boys

Auntiemuse

Mainorville Pop. 3

Mama Knows Nest

San Diego Mom of 2

Single Mom Debt Solutions Blog

Do It All Moms Blog

SexyMoxieMama - Fitness, Fun, Family

Intentional parenting for the next gen

Sassy Dove | Makeup Reviews & How-Tos

Smellyann's Blahg

A Perfect Extra Chromosome

A Mom In Vegas

Read.Bake.Run.Repeat.

Walk Memory Lane

Mama's High Strung

It's Organised: gift-giving inspiration

Find out how to win A Game Of Diapers

Momma Roars

You're Gonna Get Poned, Dad

3 Bros Flying Circus

Grace & Josie

Fitness Mom Wine Country

Heartbeats Soul Stains

Home my Heaven

Sensitive and Extraordinary Kids

Manicures & Extra Sprinkles... Please!

A Journey in Mindful Mothering

Beautyologie

Fabulous Perks

DIY Swank

The Jess Elaine

Starting Over as Ms - A Journey

Mommy's Bundle

The Mom Life

The Rollercoasters in Life

Black Mothering

Game of Diapers

Home Biz Mom

Slightly Hippie Housewife of Suburbia

Wedding Rings to Teething Rings

Comeback Momma

My StylePad - Declutter, Style, Design!

Corner of Park and France

My Sweet Homeschool

The Land of Sweet

Three Busy Bees

Barb Best | I Feel Your Pain

The Parenting Experience

Together We Roam

Immigrant Mommy

Titanimom

The GIT Mom Blog

Seeing the Lighter Side of Parenting

Leapfrog and Lipgloss

Inspiring Women

Times Squared

Kathryn Dahlstrom

Like a Bump on a Blog

Homeketeers

Tell It Once And For Autism

Ravishing in Plaid

- Get your blog listed here -

© 2014   Created by Tiffany Noth.

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Privacy Policy  |  Terms of Service

Back to Top Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...