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This is the letter I'm sure I'd want to read years ago when the diapers and sleepless nights had just began. Also those tiring first days in the hospital when breastfeeding was just not working.
Dear New Mom,
You're alive! You made it through the most horrible and most extraordinary experience of your life. That Cesarean section was not planned, and it may have almost taken your life but you're here. The nurses are not helpful with nursing and they are pushing formula on your new baby girl. You know this is wrong, but you just don't know what to do. She wont latch on right and your toes are curling from the pain. When she starts losing weight they will give you no choice but to supplement. Yet, you persevere. You want this to work and you will give it your all. Nursing is not always easy.
Do not get discouraged over this. It will get easier. Find the lactation nurse. She knows what she is doing. The first six weeks of nursing will seem like an uphill battle, but it gets better. You may want to give up right now but later on you will be so proud. A few months from now you will be extremely happy. Your nursing relationship will improve and you will educate yourself as you should have during your pregnancy.
Becoming pregnant again was not on you to do list. It will happen a lot sooner then you want it to. Your baby is 12 weeks old and you are just getting a handle on things. You're scared and don't know how you'll make it. This will pass. You are a strong woman and a great mother.
You are not perfect, no mother is. You are beautiful. Even with the stretchmarks.
You will sleep through the night again. You will have a clean home again. You will wear pre-baby clothes again. Take it one day at a time.
Soon you will have three young children and it will just come naturally just as you wish it would now. It takes hard work and you have worked so hard to become the woman you are.
You will be in college and juggling life as a mom of three. You may not lose all that baby weight but you have those three precious babies.
Just know that you will successfully breastfeed all of your children and do so in public without a care.
You are strong!
The road ahead looks tough, I'm sure. There will be days when you are sad and don't understand why. You are overwhelmed and exhausted. This time may seem like it will never end, but somehow you will find a way.