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As a couple with a family of lil ones, it is often difficult to find time, energy, and even desire to have alone time together, as a couple.
Hubby's are often tired from a long day of work. They come home spend time being daddy until the kiddos bedtime, and he collapses, thankful for the quiet, remote and bedtime.
Wives are exhausted from a long day at work (away from home or stay at home, both qualify). Making dinner, doing dishes, bath time, reading/cuddle time....all this takes up her energy. Finally, a hot bubble bath, soothing music, candles and a book are her haven for the evening.
Where do you find time or energy? Does it really matter if you have alone time together?
Alone couple time is not easy to come by, you can't make more time unfortunately. I have wished that many times, lol! Yet you must allow time for you as a couple! Some couples write in dates on their monthly calendars, some rely on last minute ideas. The latter option can be difficult if you don't have family near by, or a babysitter open to last minute requests. Others plan a yearly getaway for themselves. I'm sure there are a lot more options for learning to plan time alone as a couple, these are just a few I've tried and/or used.
When I was working full time, and did not have reliable/available child care, I used to plan in home "dates'. I would prepare a dinner or dessert just for the two of us ~ after the kiddos went to bed, we would sit, eat, visit, watch a movie, etc. Just something together, different than a regular day of life.
I honestly believe and know first hand how essential alone time together is. Amongst our busy lives, we become disconnected, stressed, lonely, etc. when we do not make this time a priority.
There is not always time, budget, planning, etc. for a "date". Do not throw in the towel. Staying up after your kids go to bed and spending time together counts! Chatting about your day, taking a walk together HOLD HANDS (no you aren't in high school, but who cares ~ think about the elderly couples ~ they're STILL holding hands and WE say, or think how awesome and cute it is! So just do it!), watch a movie together (you can talk through a movie at home ~ an added benefit!), play games, cook or bake together! The list goes on and on ~ use your imagination!
Are you happy with the amount of alone time you get with your spouse? What "alone" time ideas/plans work for you?