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If there is one thing that I will not tolerate in my house it's being a wussy! If you live at this address you will at one point or another learn how to suck it up. My compassion card usually lasts for an appropriate time and when it's no longer appropriate it disappears quickly. I try really hard not to be one of those mom's who coddles her children. I am talking about physical & emotional. No cry babies allowed in this here club!
It's tough out there in the real world and there is nothing that drives me crazier than seeing a mother try to shield her child from reality. Disturbances & unpleasantness happen every day in real life. If we think everything is a huge deal then so will our kids. If we try to keep them from experiencing anything tough then they will never know how to deal with it.
Things I have almost zero tolerance for are Hypochondria, excessive drama, over-exaggerating, milking it for too long, over emotional, strange fears & phobias, and self pity.
You do not have a brain tumor because you have a headache.
You are not going to die if you can't stay out 30 minutes later.
Your teacher did not call you stupid and fat because they corrected your wrong answer.
There is no reason to cry if you can not watch another 6 hours of TV or text another 3000 messages.
A fly is not going to kill you from a rare disease if it lands on you.
Sticks and stones may break your bones but words should not and will not really hurt you.
You are not really going to throw up if you eat one more green bean.
Your scratched knee does not need 20 stitches or even a band-aid for that matter.
Some common phrases I use to teach coping skills:
Life is tough!
Suck it up!
Shake it off!
Get over it!
But I love you and that's all that should matter!
You want me to give you something to cry about?!
I hope my personal guide today has taught at least one person how to teach confidence to their kids. Believe in them. They are much stronger than you think. I am in no way trying to teach them how to be insensitive. I am trying to build their confidence so they feel like they can attack anything that comes their way. The words " I can't" are NOT accepted around here. Not even from Thing 3. They CAN and they WILL or I will give them a nice swift kick in the ass to get them going!