I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of Regret lately. Perhaps because I just recently hit an age milestone of 50 and I think I need to be reflective right now. But, I think it’s also because over the last year and a half I have been through some major life changes. Job change, re-location, financial struggles, moving from a rural to an urban area…. pretty significant changes (although, there are others who have been through much worse than I, so I don’t want to appear to be whining). And, there may be more changes on the way for me, in fact. So, my life is all about decisions and change right now.
There have been quite a few moments recently where I have stopped and asked myself if these changes – most of which were by my choice – were worth it. Where they right? Where they wrong? Essentially, Do I have any regrets? And here is my unequivocal answer: No, I have no regrets because I refuse to have any regrets. Here’s why: As I see it, to have Regret is to suggest that God doesn’t know what He’s doing. Think about it. If I start to re-think and re-play my path to where I am currently, I am challenging everything God has done to this point. If I believe that God does have a plan for me and that my every move (literally and figuratively) is by His design, then what gives me the right to go back and question anything? I am where I am right now, changes, challenges, stress and all, because this is exactly where God has brought me and where He wants me to be.
Now, I do want to clarify one thing. This is not to confuse “Regret” with “Remorse” or with any other term associated with taking responsibility for a moral wrong. That needs to be done. I’m talking about having “No Regrets” when it comes to the ‘utilities’ of life, those decisions that deal with the day-to-day comings and goings of our lives on this planet. Where to live, what job to take, sell the house or not, go back to school, on and on…. I see it as very simple. You pray and ask for guidance in making those decisions, you make them, move forward, and you don’t look back. Regret is a spiritual and emotional drain, not to mention a time-stealer. Why would we want to put energy into something that gives us nothing in return?
I wanted to leave you with one more thought about Regret. I always say “You will never regret any decision made with the best interest of your children in mind”. Perhaps if we did more of that, then Regret wouldn’t even be an issue.