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This past week and a half has been a discouraging one for me. I hadn't posted much on the blog either. I began thinking deeply about my role as a mother, my role in life, and what I could do to improve. I also began dwelling on the fact that my maternity leave is almost up. I will write more about that later. But during this time, I entered a major funk.
I needed to find something that would help me put things into perspective and get me out of this funk that I had come into. When I do not feel well, my feelings tend to take control of everything I do. This is not healthy for me, my relationship, or my daughter. I know that during this age, children begin to mimic what they see as their example.
I want my daughter to see me as a happy person and be happy herself. I was also getting snappy towards my husband. Everything he did irritated me! No one should live like that.
While trying to find an uplifting quote, I found this one by Tony Robbins, a motivational speaker.
People who succeed have momentum. The more they succeed, the more they want to succeed, and the more they find a way to succeed. Similarly, when someone is failing, the tendency is to get on a downward spiral that can even become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
For example, during the best of times when everything is going my way, good things seem to keep happening. I feel good, and more good things seem to happen. Alternatively, if I am feeling bad and feel like I am failing, nothing seems to be going my way. I am thinking negatively and negative things seem to keep happening.
This concept reminded me of a book I received as a gift a few years ago called The Secret. Simply put, the idea here is based off of the law of attraction. We attract what we think and feel. Positive feelings attract positive things and negative feelings attract negative things. This book is an interesting read. I was skeptical at first, but it does make sense. Even if one doesn't believe in the idea that our feelings attract the bad or good in our lives, think of it this way, if we are in a positive state of mind, we tend to try harder to reach our goals. The same goes when one is being negative. There is a bigger chance that we will give up and not make what we want happen because we are already thinking it is going to end badly.
In my case, I find a lot of difficulty in keeping a positive frame of mind especially when something bad has happened. Bad things will happen whether we want them to or not. That is just the way life is. However, do we want to continue to attract bad things? Of course not. But when we feel defeated by something that has happened, we tend to continue to think negatively, until we reach a point when we might automatically assume the worse. This reminds me of the saying "oh, with our luck…" fill in the blank. Doesn't this type of feeling make the negative self prophecy a reality?
I definitely don't want to do that to myself. I need to think positively to get the things I want. The things I want out of being a parent, the things I want out of being a wife, the things I want out of my way of life, this blog, career, everything that I hold important.
Last week I let myself absorb the negative energy around me. A few bad things had happened and then they seemed to keep happening. I was in a bad mood and so was everyone and everything else around me. Let this week bring more positive things and feelings. Let this week be the turning point that I need to be my best and not let negative thoughts or feelings get in the way of success.