There’s a new trend buzzing 'round Brown these days and that is the concept of a “financial abortion.”
Basically, the way proponents see it is that should a guy advise his partner that he doesn’t want to have a child and she decides to have the child then he shouldn’t be held financially responsible.
Wait a minute, I thought. We’ve been doing this financial abortion thing for a long time only we didn’t give it a fancy name. We called it daddy took off.
Hello, Ms. Brown Professor, financial abortions are circumstances endured by poor women since the dawn of time.
So I kept reading, hoping it would eventually make sense but it didn’t. At least not for me.
My father deserted my mother and I, financially and otherwise. Such an arrangement between the two was understood- my mother was deemed to be the responsible party in all areas. She fed me, clothed me, gave me a home to live in for the next 17 years. Pops pursued other areas of interest (drugs, alcohol, travel). We weren’t wealthy people so there was no point in pursuing child support from my mother’s perspective. It was the 80’s, the government really didn’t care yet. So when daddy took off we made due with less.
My story is not unique.
What cracks me up about all of this financial abortion mumbo jumbo is that finally the middle and upper classes are adopting what is, primarily, a lower class value. That you’re not responsible if something “happens.” And the hilarious part about all of it is that middle and upper class folks have the resources to lose. They’re not living paycheck to paycheck like the lower class folks who literally cannot afford a kid. These are folks with assets, property, steady jobs and it would make sense to me that such an individual would want to support his child.
If the choice is made to carry the child to term, the U.S. government stipulates that the child's father becomes financially responsible.
To lil ol' lower class me that sounds like a good thing to do.
And yet folks are chomping at the bit to get away. It's greed, plain and simple.
The philosophy reminds me of the whole fat free craze that has swept this country in the last 10 years. You can have chocolate ice cream with zero calories and no saturated fat, if you want it. You can have potato chips fried in unsaturated fat. You can have a bison cheeseburger and get the same experience as the real deal black angus. Folks are finding a way to cheapen darn near every experience. And the ones who are doing it are the ones who can afford to do it.
And if you want to say, hey ho, Jess-o-rama, hold up here. What about the nice guys that want to protect their resources and truly don’t want to have a child right now. What about them?
I’d say that there’s a simple solution to that conundrum that ends in a “y” and begins with a “v.”
I'd also tell those gents that everything that is pleasurable has consequences in this world.
Whether it’s gelato or a cigarette, if it passes your lips you know there’s going to be some hell to pay. It shouldn’t be a shocker when a bun starts to warm in the oven if the baker added the necessary ingredients.www.sexymamamanifesto.com