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Your children need to know who you are. When they reach a certain age, confiding in you is naturally difficult. You are not a human, you're a parent. There's a difference, as much as we hate to admit.
What I'm saying is this: Make sure they understand you were a teenager or kid at one point in time. Instead of pushing your values upon them, tell them what happened to you and why you are so adamant that it doesn't happen to them.
If they make the same choices as you, be there for them. Parents are not infallible. Do you remember how you felt when your parents tried to discipline you without all of the facts? Do you remember how unfair it seemed?
Talk to your children. Try to understand what is going on and, if you don't, express that you are trying to understand. Be there for your kids, no matter what.
Maybe my view isn't the popular one. I've found that to be true in many cases. Being a dictator has never worked in the long term when it comes to politics, and it will not work for your children.
Give them credit. They have minds and opinions. Create open dialogues. Let them talk to you without fear of punishment.
They have to go through the process just like we have. We cannot protect them from that, we can only guide them through it.
Trust your children's thoughts and opinions without judgement, but let them know what you have experienced. Never be ashamed of what you have done. It's a learning experience and your children can only benefit from that.