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My 5 year old knows that I love my partner. He knows we're together. This isn't strange for him, as he's seen us together all of his life.
Suddenly, a couple of weeks ago, he told me "girls can't have girlfriends. Only boys can have girlfriends and girls can have boyfriends".
Kids have conversations about their parents at school. Even in kindergarten, differences are there and judgements are made. I can only assume he and his friends were talking about their moms and dads and myself and my partner came up in the conversation.
Before this, it was normal. I asked him about it and he shied away from the subject. I will ask him about it again, and his father is going to keep an eye and ear out for anything the kiddo might have heard.
So, my question is this: Why aren't parents having these discussions with their children? It's not abnormal. It's not something to be ashamed of.
Children aren't stupid. They see and hear everything. Their little sponge brains soak in so much information. If you think they're not going to notice a child whose parents are "different", you are dead wrong.
Have the difficult conversations about relationships. Explain it to them in words they can understand. If my son gets made fun of, bullied, because of parents who are afraid to have the simple discussion about women and men who love people of their own gender, I will go absolutely insane.
I don't care if it's not what you view as "correct" or "moral". Teach your children everyone is different in some way, shape or form. I want parents to learn to communicate with their children. Let them know there are people who are "different" and that different is ok.
It doesn't matter if it's sexuality, religious beliefs, or social status. We are all people, we all have the same feelings, dreams, insecurities... And I'll tell you something else: if my son does get bullied by children who don't understand, I will not go after the children.
I will talk to the parents, to the teachers, to the administrators of the school. I am not intimidated or scared and my child shouldn't be either.