Happy Sunday! Just walked in from laying in the sun for a few hours. Can’t believe September is just around the corner geez. Anyway while I laid in the sun I watched a mom and her little girl blowing bubbles and started to smile from ear to ear. I was saying to myself “oh please enjoy this moment because there is so much more to come. Please build a strong connection so that she may always want to blow bubbles with you”. I was glad I caught that moment because it brought me to sharing this post with you.
“Mom, I love you but we aren’t going to live with each other forever.”
“Mom, you do know that I don’t want to live in New York for the rest of my life right?”
“Mom, life in the states sucks, there is a whole big world out there to see and enjoy.”
These are just a few of the statements my little sunshine has been sharing with me for the past fifteen years.
Like her father, my daughter is a huge explorer, they are pretty fearless. I admire them very much for that. I credit that as one of the reasons I was drawn and fell in love with her dad so long ago. He never limited himself to an area or to any thought. All things were possible you just had to think it, put it in motion and move your two feet. They don’t see obstacles or hold too tight to people, places, and things.
Parenting as far as the label is concerned is forever but we are only vessels used to bring forth new life. We don’t own our children we can only hope we do a good enough job in which they love us so that they want to stick around and be with us long term. They don’t have to do anything but we also hope that what we have done for them builds bonds which we in turn call “family”.
I’m enjoying watching her in this process, I look forward to great results. One of her friends already left to study Amsterdam another is preparing to go to Berlin. I love these kids for having the courage of exploration. I think some of us adults as we mature/age loose sight of that and become so set in our ways we get “old” too quickly. I am looking forward to my own “exploration” while she is away and see what I am made of as well.
These are some links I came across while I was doing some research that helped me understand the whole process and had great tips. A great one was Daniel Wong’s How to Study Smart: 20 Scientific Ways to Learn Faster. As parents the more we know the better and the more support and options we are aware of the smoother some choices can be. If you have a child or know someone who may be interested in studying abroad instead of holding on to the fear of letting go perhaps arm yourself with tons of info that can make it easier to say good bye.
If you are in this same journey please share how you are handling it or if you have already been here done that please share your experience with me. I would love to hear your stories.
Always stress free xo.
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