There are days in which you don’t want to get out of bed. This can be for a number of reasons- being sick, in pain, and/ or mental health issues.
I’ve struggled with all three and it can be a huge challenge. Some days, my joints hurt so badly I can barely walk or use my hands. Other days, my head hurts so badly that it is hard to keep my eyes open. However, it’s the days that my anxiety and depression keeps me in bed that can be the hardest.
I just lay in bed and play on my phone, watch t.v. or both. Time passes and I still can’t get myself to get out of bed. I want to do the things I need or want to do but I’m trapped by my own thoughts. It’s hard to move and do anything, even take a shower or eat. I hide this pretty well from others because I talk to them as if things are normal. I hate the idea of throwing my pain at anyone, even my own husband.
I’ve discussed this with my therapist, and she has encouraged me to talk more with others. It is okay to talk to others. I’m there for them, so why not trust them to be there for me? This is a struggle, however, because I feel like I have thrown plenty at those closest to me over the past couple of years. It’s hard for me to open up at this point.
I have developed some tips to deal with the days that are too much to deal with.
- Be gentle with yourself. This will help you remember that it’s okay to have bad days, and that the next day has the possibility to be better.
- Do what you can. Do something small and leave the rest. For example, try a couple of smaller chores and the big things the next day. This lessens the pressure on yourself, which can lead to more anxiety.
- Meditate, listen to music or both. I like to meditate, preferably with someone speaking. It helps soothe my anxiety and helps my depression a bit. Sometimes it doesn’t help because my mind is far too scattered, but it is usually helpful. I use Insight Timer. (No, I’m not being paid to endorse this app.) Music helps me think through things, no matter where I am in my thinking.
- Try writing it out. A journal is good, either on paper or using an app. This can help release feelings and get them entirely off your mind.
- A nice hot shower or bath. I’ve had to force myself to do this, but water can be soothing. I’m always glad I did this afterward.
The struggle is real for millions of people, myself included. Anxiety and depression don’t magically disappear. They can hide and make a comeback when you least expect it. We can only do our best to manage it and care for ourselves even when we feel we aren’t worthy.